I can mend your broken heart - Paul Mckenna & HughWillbourn

ok. I've finish reading the book.
Hmm, it didnt really mend my heart yet BUT.. It gave me some enlightment..
Below r some of the quotes which I find it meaningful..

Love means wishing the very best for the loved ones.
Hence, I respect yr wish to separate from me and I wish u well on yr path through life. Even if I know the path leads away from me, my love for u wldnt hold u back.
Frankly, I wld tink its nice if u return but loving u makes me totally accept yr freedom to leave me forever. Cos I know if I hold u on against yr will, eventually love will wither and die.
" ... If yr partner choose to leave u, love says u must let them go.."

Why some pple dun experience heartbreak n others do?
The pple whom dun experience heartbreak at the end of the relationship have alr left emotionally. Often, they alr have someone else to go to, a better future alr planned.
" The length of relationship is NOT equal to the amt of upset in the end. Its the future planning u do that determines yr attachment to that person. The pain u feel in heartbreak is proportionate to the meaning u made fr the future thats been cancelled."
No wonder I felt so upset.. Cos I had my future planned so so so far with u.. The further I plan, the more hurt I get..
I know u had told pple ard u that u had the tot of having a future with me..
Perhaps its really true and perhaps telling pple is a way for u to reassure things which u r unsure abt --> For this, I totally have gt no idea.

Reliability is a gd thing isnt it? Not always.
There is nothing wrong with reliability at all.
But if U dont want to be used , dont give it away for free to someone whom never gives back. And surprisingly, pple knows our weak point better than we do.
MOre often then not, pple use yr weak point to attack u. Hmm.. Don't do it on me k? Please..

Here comes the best part..
Never explain!!
Many a times, u will start tinking "If only my ex wld understand how I felt and what I'm gg thru, I wld feel much better"
However, if yr ex was willing to understand, yr relationship wld not ended. Yr ex will not understand or sympathize with u. Chances are, if u try to explain anything, or get them to understand yr point of view, they will twist their words and misunderstand u.
U simply CANT make others c things yr way if they dun want to.
"....Part of letting go is learning to live with misunderstanding, the incompleteness and the messiness of it... "

Nobody is perfect
Admit it if u r sad, dun be ashamed abt it. If u admit yr sadness to yrself, other pple cant manipulate u by threatening to expose it. pple whom hide from their own sadness do not grieve it and do not move on.
Nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes and we are all vulnerable.

Finally.. My tots after reading the book --
I come to realise alot of things. U might be tinking its my assumption. Its not.
I'm just standing at different perspective to c things.
I come to understand why she is behaving this way.
I oso come to understand why such things happen btw us.

Actually, although both of u had broken up and are alr physcially apart.
U had been also telling yrself thats it over and hence decide to be with me.
However, I believe emotionally u r not yet. Its really ok to admit it cos nobody is perfect.

I'm just part of chess in yr chess board..
Although U dun really mean to do that.. I hope..
I'm just a stepping stone to help u forget her and an assurance to yrself that U n her are really over and u can start a new life..

Actually, alot of things, once u lose it then u feel the importance of it.
Or I can say,
Things that are difficult to get and more attractive than things that are readily available.
Meaning, u desire to have her once more simply becos she is no longer available and if she is gg out w someone else, the fact alone can cause a totally automatic response of wanting them back again. I know, more often than not, u do not notice u r doing it. Hence I cannot blame u nor her.

Hmmm.. Tinking abt it.. Alot of signs n systoms had already shown..
Just that I was too blinded by love at that pt of time that I cldnt tink properly..

To love is to let go..
I'll let u go.. I wldnt blame u if in future u will be back to her or had alr gotten back to her.
I had to admit I'll be upset.. But its ok.
Cos seeing yr love one gets what he wants and is happy with his life is enuff for me..

I have fault too. I shl have been clear headed in the past when u r not and shlnt clap with u all the way..
NO, this is not blaming u nor am I being sacarstic.
It takes 2 hands to clap. I fully understand.

I really hope our love in the past was real for once - even for a short while..
I admit - my love was real n is real..

I know it seems that I've gotten over u upon reading this.
Hmmm.. I admit - Nope, I did not.
I'm not a remote control neither is the book I've read is an atidote for heartbroken.
Time is all I need.

The feeling of being able to admit the truth is nice.. Try it. There is really nothing bad or ashamed abt it.

P.S. I love u..